One of the highlights of my time in Washington, was what became known as "The Gauntlet". This included Scout Week, Survival Week and the Closing Week together as a tribe. It was during Scout Week that I had a bit of a internal conflict as I watched certain tribe members get ultra competitive and for others treat it kind of like war. It wasn't until 2 months later that I got to witness a much more benevolent way of playing an age old game.
The outdoor school that I worked for sat on land that was owned by and a part of a
Sufi Community. One of their values is that of nonviolence, and when it came time to play capture the flag they went about it very differently. They practiced the art of gifting. The art of gifting was more about paying attention to the needs of the tribe rather than taking something from them. You still had to practice your scout skills of movement and invisibility, but rather than the goal being to take the flag, the goal was to give a gift to the other clan without being seen. This too became very contagious as each clan attempted to sneak into another camp to gift them.
Growing up in the Church of the Brethren (and I struggled with games that seem to promote a war-like mentality) but here it was like a light went off and I quickly realized how we could go about this and still practice our Brethren values of being a blessing.
A gifting economy is one in which the most important things aren't for sale (child care, prepping meals, making music, taking care of the elderly, leadership decision etc..). Selling and buying tend to distance or impersonalize relationships. Gifting builds, sustains and grows relationships and communities. I think that's part of my current struggle with the church, we've lost the importance of gifting in favor of buying and selling our stuff for others.